Trying to understand Naomi’s bitterness toward chocolate

I'm always flattered when someone compliments me on my "chocolate" skin. Therefore, I don't understand supermodel Naomi Campbell being upset at the Cadbury ad that refers to her complexion. I would understand if the supermodel wanted to sue because the company didn't pay her to use her first name, though I haven't consulted an attorney to determine whether she would have a legit claim. But I don't know when being called "chocolate" became a negative. Who doesn't love chocolate? For years my … [Read more...]

Did the lone black couple have to be so stereotypical?

I've become a huge Vince Vaughn fan over the years so when the opportunity came to check out his new flick Couples Retreat last night, I jumped at it. I liked what I saw in the trailer and once I was at the theater I screamed with laughter. The script was a little disjointed but what do you expect? The only thing that really bothered me is how the lone black couple was portrayed.  The man (Faizon Love) was grossly overweight, broke and had bad credit. His PYT was ghet-toe, 20 years old, worked … [Read more...]

Go ahead, let that belly out

If you are a real friend you may have seen my belly. If you haven't seen it, don't worry. It's not that I think any less of you. It's more about what I think of myself. Decades ago I trained myself to subconsciously hold in my pouch. Several years ago my dear friend Marsha gave me a gift I have always treasured: a package of cocktail napkins that read "You Don't Have To Hold Your Stomach IN For Real Friends." I've never opened the package of napkins but I still hold in my stomach around my real … [Read more...]

Luxury looks more like me, finally

In three days the United States' first African-American president takes the Oath of Office. This month a dark-skinned beauty graces the cover of Elite Traveler for the first time. What a country. It's not often, OK, let's just be real: I have never seen a woman with coffee bean skin on the cover of an American luxury travel magazine. I'm sure somewhere supermodel Alek Wek covered one but I never saw it. So imagine my surprise (and glee) when I received my January/February issue of Elite … [Read more...]

Should “finding a man” be a New Year’s resolution?

Jetsetter with a petsetter

Those of you who know me personally are very familiar with my dating woes, which I don't believe in hiding in hopes that maybe one of you will take pity on me and set me up on a blind date. With that in mind, I want to share with you an e-mail I just received from a female acquaintance, who wrote: I think you are extremely talented and a very interesting human being.  It shocks me that you have been dateless in 'o8.  I have a feeling that men are intimidated by you.  You will find the right … [Read more...]